Thanks guys,
Great suggestions, we already have a forrester :), so that is out, the wrx is too plasticy and looks a bit odd so is out, the GTi is just a little too expensive with options, albeit a brilliant car, the M3 is a great idea, I have wanted an E46 M3 ever since they came out, however having two friends with them I would *never* want to get a major service done on one.

I have however figured out what to buy, reasons are:
For her
* "Honey it's a wagon! See, not a sports car, will be great for the kids!"
* "It has AWD too so will be extra safe in rough conditions!"
* "It's a family car"

For Me
* RB26 :) :)
* GTR driveline

It's... a Stagea. Not small, not esc + curtain airbags which has totally defeated the entire point of the thread I started, but a good choice for a second car?

Sound reasonable? And it's Nissan.