Sounds like you should have bought a workshop manual before you took on a job that you know nothing about. The whole thing is clearly illustrated & described in there.
I suggest that you keep this
link & check on it periodicly as manuals show up here quite cheaply most of the time.
The taper of both inner & outer cones goes in toward each other.
The outer ring [the cup] goes into the hub first, then the back, or inner bearing cone goes in & the seal goes in last with the main lip towards the bearing. This seal is intended to keep the grease in but many seals also have a smaller lip that is intended to keep dirt away from the main sealing lip in an attempt to prolong its life. It seems to work.
Make sure that you get the wheel bearing grease right in between the rollers on the inside of the steel cage before you try to assemble & adjust it.
P.S. Never 'BASH' any precision part like a rolling element bearing.
Tap the cup gently but firmly with a suitable punch or drift & hammer around its perimiter by working from one side across to the other. The objective is to avoid cocking the bearing in the bore & damaging both it & the hub.
Backyard butchers 'bash' things, but mechanics [professional or otherwise] do it properly.